I thought for the longest time that I either had complete control of my life, or no control of my life. I busied myself with trying to control results, wanting my life to look a certain way by a certain time.
But then I learned a valuable lesson…
I cannot control results. I cannot control the world that surrounds me. I cannot control what comes towards. I cannot control other people. I cannot control how the world responds to me.
I only have control over my decisions and my actions. I have control over how I think. I have control over my choices. I have control over my behavior. I have control over my words and responses.
I had lived my entire life flip-flopped. Instead of taking control of me, I was trying to control everything around me.
A lot of that came from the belief that if I did certain things, certain results were guaranteed. If I got a certain degree, I’d get a certain job. If I got that job, I’d make a certain amount of money. If I made that much money, I’d live in a certain house or apartment.
I could go on.
What I realized was that I had taken all the actions I was told were right. I had made all the smart moves.
And my results were a complete and total let-down. AND I had taken actions that I wasn’t proud of or happy about.
I’ve decided, though, that all of that is changing. I am taking back control over my decisions and my actions. I don’t have control over how the world responds to my action, but I can rest assured that I made the best decisions for me.
